At Whitt’s End: Live for the stories
February 11, 2016
When tragedy confronts us, a moment of clarity often emerges. After the initial shock subsides, we begin to ask ourselves some rather deep questions, and somehow, profound answers pour into our consciousness.
A recent event prompted this sort of response in me.
It’s always heartbreaking to hear about a health crisis in a friend and loved one, and on behalf the Wayne State community, I would like to send positive love and support to one of our esteemed professors here, Jerry Conway. He suffered a stroke a couple weeks ago.
For all you unfortunate souls who have not had the opportunity to meet and know Jerry, I would like to dedicate the majority of my column this week to celebrating him as an inspirational and remarkable individual. After all, the man is a legend.
With his lush combed-over snowy white hair, robust mustache that trivializes Tom Selleck, business casual and loafer style, Jerry exudes a brand that is typically only captured in film by professional actors—I’m talking the Humphrey Bogart, Marlon Brando and Sean Connery sort.
As a college professor, past Nebraska state legislator, Vietnam War veteran and international man of mystery, it’s hard to know where to begin with Jerry. Honestly, the “Most Interesting Man in the World” in the Dos Equis commercials has a picture of Jerry Conway on his mantel piece.
Perhaps most important, Jerry is a life full of stories.
He has been everywhere. He’s done darned near everything. He’s networked and hobnobbed with influential leaders and common-folk alike all over the world.
He’s savvy in business and has a special way with people. For example, it doesn’t matter if it be politician or street swindler—I’d bet that Jerry would find himself and his entourage on the sweeter end of the deal.
This, of course, is why Jerry is one of the best role-models for young world travelers as he and his wife Kathy lead students abroad into Greece, Europe and Asia.
I’ve learned to never be surprised by what he has done throughout his lifetime. You can talk with him for hours, days even, hearing of his adventures, stories, past experiences and jokes.
And while his stories and words are usually light-hearted, there is no doubting the deep impact and life-learning that results in the students around him. His lessons aren’t necessarily the type that can be found in a textbook, either. Rather, it is his persona and outlook on life that seem to be the most profound.
With his sudden health concern, I began thinking about my own life.
What am I doing to fill my relatively brief time upon this planet? What stories would I want to be able to tell in the future? Am I actively doing what it takes to see these stories come to fruition? And finally, how will I be able to use these narratives to teach and shape the generations after me?
Like Jerry, I want to live a life of doing—traveling places, engaging others, navigating through difficult and uncertain terrain and solving problems.
While doing these endeavors, however, there is one final variable that Jerry is particularly adept at, and that is simply enjoying the ride. There’s hardly a dull moment with Jerry, and his fun-loving energy is contagious to all who are around him.
Thanks for everything, Jerry. We’re all wishing you the best on the road to recovery!
Litsa Tsia-Sulaiman • Feb 17, 2016 at 10:12 am
In response to Joe Whitt’s article.
My friend Jerry Conway,
It is Friday night, about 10′ before midnight, and we are ready to go to bed after a long day at work. Suddenly the phone rings and we are happy – albeit a bit surprised, – to see Kathleen’s name on the phone screen.It’s not like her to call at this hour.
Our excitement doesn’t last long! Trying to keep her composure, she asks us not to worry and says that she and Jerry are OK but Jerry had a stroke! and he is in IC!
I let out a cry: ΝΟ! And by the time my brain processed the information, my eyes had already welled up and an emptiness, a dark void had set in in my heart. Kathleen was still talking, explaining his condition, her voice cracking and I was thinking : this is a nightmare!
This can’t be happening! Not to Jerry! Jerry is invincible. You see, I’m one of those fortunate souls to have met him and to have enjoyed his friendship for 8 years now since he and Kathleen started coming to Greece. I’ve heard many of his amazing stories – some of them more than once – and shared unforgettable moments with him and Kathleen here in Greece, while my first visit to the States last summer would not have been the extraordinary experience it was without them!
Jerry is a strong and highly intelligent man! He is a fighter! The progress he is making is incredible! I am convinced that he΄ll get well soon and this adventure of his will be one more of the stories he΄ll be telling in his own unique ‘Jerrian’ style!
Litsa Tsia-Sulaiman
Rob Bligh • Feb 15, 2016 at 12:37 pm
“Live for the Stories” is a real gem. I have been Jerry Conway’s friend since our high school days. You column combined truth and eloquence to capture the essence of the man. Congratulations and thanks. – Rob Bligh
Melanie Placke • Feb 14, 2016 at 11:02 pm
Absolutely on point, Joe. I send every positive vibe I can muster to Jerry and Kathy, true globetrotters who taught me a new way to view the world, not with fear but with genuine curiosity.
Kay Kasulka • Feb 13, 2016 at 11:17 am
Joe, you just about said it all in your tribute to Jerry Conway; however, I would like to add that he is also a most loyal friend to those who know him. Get well Jerry. We love you.